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Hey Guys, If Your Equipment Isn’t Working… It’s OK!

Sex isn’t an easy subject to talk about. When there are problems happening in the bedroom (or wherever you like to get it on) emotions can run high. Concerns over what is or isn’t ‘normal’, expectations around endurance and frequency, and anxiety and stress over performance are all issues that can get in the way […]

Forget Your Sex Life and Focus on Your Erotic Life

Sure it is kind of strange for a sexologist to be saying forget about your sex life.  Shouldn’t I be saying have more sex?  Probably, but I rarely do what I’m supposed to do…it keeps life interesting.  In an effort to get people to look at how they relate to their partners differently, changing the […]

Creating The Future vs. Chasing The Past

What if you could re-live your favourite sexual experience?  The same feelings, sights, smells, sounds, tastes, touches and emotions. Wouldn’t that be amazing? Unfortunately, the reality is that it will never happen again! Sorry about that, and there is nothing wrong with keeping it as a great memory and fantasy.  However, one of the challenges that […]

Easy Ways to Have a Difficult Conversation

I host seminars around Toronto focusing on different topics.  One of the things I am most passionate about is communication.  Of all the amazing things we can do with our mouths when it comes to sex.  Communicating is the sexiest. Notice how I didn’t say talking but communicating.  Talking is something that we all do… […]

Who Cares! – thoughts of a Toronto Sexologist

Not who cares about my thoughts….. I hope some people do! What I mean by who cares is why are we so preoccupied with how other people choose to sexually express themselves? The amount of time and energy that is spent and the  judgement and bullying that goes on surrounding what other people do (or […]

King Of Kegels

Yes!  It is True!  Kegel Exercises are for men too! This post if for all those guys who work out at the gym to look sexy and attractive to potential partners.  A muscle that has a massive influence on your sex life is internal and you may not even know you can work it out. […]

Opening Up! – Toronto Sexologist Stephen

I often get asked what a couple should do and expect when opening up a relationship.  I thought I would share some of my thoughts.  When sex help is needed.  I am there! DO: 1).  Take things slow, baby steps are key, check in with each other often. 2). If you are exploring together (bringing […]

Guys Guide to Great Sex: Be the Bookends

Gentlemen, time and time again I am asked.  How can I be a better lover?  How can I get more sex?  How can I ensure that I satisfy my partner?  Much of the time guys are looking for a quick fix a tip or trick that will blow their partner out of the water…. I […]

Fear of the Cheating Partner

Yesterday i had the opportunity to speak with a woman about sex….. it left me feeling sad for her. She and her husband had been married for several years and have a couple adorable kids (her words, let’s face it, some kids aren’t) kids.  She shared with me her greatest fear is that her husband […]

What the heck is a Sexologist and what do you do?

What is a sexologist? And what do you exactly do? Ha!  Great Question, and one that is often asked.  You are in good company.  I always joke that my mom doesn’t think it is a real job and my dad just hopes it isn’t. As a sexologist I study sex, which I think is fairly obvious….. […]