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Toys Totally Rock!

Using sex toys can be a fun and easy way to add something to your sex life. They are a great way to experience new and exciting ways of connecting with your partner. Employees who work at adults stores are usually well trained, friendly, and very educated. Whiles toys will never replace your partner(s) (or […]

What is the Reality of your Sex Life?

A great person, much smarter than me, once said, “I reject your reality and substitute my own”. As human beings, we want to be able to create our own reality, and sometimes that may be in alignment with what’s really going on, but it’s more often the case that it’s not. This is especially true […]

Let’s Talk About (Safer) Sex!

Communication is the most important thing that you can do for your sex life! Out of all the wild, wonderful, and creative things that we can do with our mouths when it comes to sex, talking and communicating is the most powerful–and one of the most important things to communicate about with your sexual partner(s) […]

Confidence is Key!

Time and time again, study after study after study, when people are surveyed and are asked what is the most sexy attribute or characteristic that a partner can have? Or, what do you find most attractive in a partner? Confidence. It’s always at the top of the list! When it comes to sex, developing a […]

Sexual Paralysis… Do You Have It?

Men want sex all the time. Women always want foreplay (more on foreplay coming up in another post). These are just two of the common myths that are out there and are often found in reading magazines or click bait articles.  You may have seen “The top 10 ways to blow your partner’s mind!” or […]

Explore Your Own Sexual Spectrum!

There are a number of spectrums that you look to explore sexually. This can be from the spectrum of sexual self-expression and can be explored using my sex menu (http://drdewit.com/sex-menu/). It can also be looking at the types of relationships that you want to explore. We normally look at sex in a very polarized way. […]

Are you a Sexual Archaeologist or an Sexual Architect?

People are fascinated with why they are the way they are sexually, or why their partners are the way they are sexually. They want to know why their partners like having sex a particular way or why they are interested in exploring a particular kink or fetish. People are adamant that there has to be […]

Stop Talking……….. To People Who Can’t Help You!

We are great at talking to one person about our sex life. Do you know who that person is? It’s Ourself! That voice in your head is constantly going. It’s constantly judging and assessing. Sex happens between our ears, long before it happens between our legs. We’re up in our head, we’re making up stories, […]

Sex For One Is So Much Fun!

The key to having a great sexual connection with other people is having a great sexual connection with yourself. The most important sexual relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself.  Once you have reached that level of sexual comfort and confidence with yourself, only then can you reach that level […]

The 4 Steps to Re-Writing Your Sex Blueprint

There are four key elements, each of which is crucial in reprogramming your sexual blueprint: Awareness, Impact, Separation, and Commitment. 1). Awareness is the first step. You can’t change something unless you know it exists. 2). Acknowledging the Impact is the second step. Unless you can identify how this is negatively impacting your life right […]