Using sex toys can be a fun and easy way to add something to your sex life. They are a great way to experience new and exciting ways of connecting with your partner. Employees who work at adults stores are usually well trained, friendly, and very educated. Whiles toys will never replace your partner(s) (or maybe they will, more on sex dolls in another post), they can elevate the level of intimacy and take your sex life to the next level.
Sometimes I hear that people get upset and offended when they find out their partner(s) use or are interested in using sex toys. They think that using toys mean they are not good enough or that they should be able to satisfy their partner without toys. If you are one of these people, I invite you to think of toys as something to add into your sexual repertoire, rather than something that detracts from or replaces something from it. Sex toys can add a whole new dimension to your relationships and can make your bond with your partner(s) that much stronger–and the research proves that!
Globally, the sex toy industry grosses close to $15 billion a year and some studies report that 50% of women start using sex toys in their early 20s. And, it’s not a new fad! The oldest known sex toy is 30, 000 years old and they have been in use regularly ever since then–we’ve just been to uncomfortable talking about them! The discourse surrounding sex toys is filled with misconceptions and stereotypes that can make it hard for people to talk about them. So, let’s get to work dispelling some of these myths:
Myth # 1: Sex Toys are Just for Single and Lonely People.
One of the most negative myths about sex toys is that they are only for single, lonely people who have no other option–and that’s not true! People of all relationship statuses use sex toys! People who are in relationships use them in the bedroom with their partner(s), when they are in a long distance relationship
Myth # 2: Sex Toys Make your Sex Life Worse
Wrong again! According to a study from the Kinsey Institute, women of all sexualities who use sex toys are more likely to have healthier sex lives and experience “higher levels of desire, arousal, lubrication, and orgasm”. Sex toys are also a great way to discover what you like about sex–what turns you on, how you like to orgasm etc, what feels good etc. And, this in turn can help you create a fulfilling and fun sex life with your partners. Sex toys enhance, not ruin, sex with other people!
Myth # 3: Sex Toys are Only for Women.
Admittedly, the majority of marketing of sex toys is directed at women. However, sex toys aren’t just for women! Men can also enjoy the use of sex toys and some of the most common ones are: cock rings (vibrating ones are fun too) just be careful of the; masturbatory sleeves (the “fleshlight” paved the way in this department); and prostate massagers (insertable devices are curved to directly target the prostate which when stimulated can create intense orgasms and even increase prostate health).
So go out there and explore what sexy fun you can get up to by yourself and/or with your partner.
- Posted by Dr. Stephen de Wit
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